Getting Thru It

Ok so we all don’t know that we have a story to tell. I sure didn’t quite understand it for quite a while. I don’t remember any childhood stories being told to me. Do you? The only thing that I can think of is the people who were telling me these stories just didn’t have their heart into the story or why they were telling it.

I have recently started collecting stories, all kinds of stories. You never know when you are going to be in a situation where you can use a story to get a point across, or the conversation you are in just completely stalls out. Hey tell a story, it can get things moving again.

I also use storyjolt.com to learn quick story writing or telling, which ever you prefer to call it. It has also helped in other aspects on how I think. To tell a story in 60 seconds and then the same story in 5 minutes. Let me tell you, that is a challenge.

So what’s a story you can tell, it doesn’t have to be great, just told?

Ok so it looks like a bunch of rocks. I just turned up a little portion of my backyard to replant a failed garden. the problem is I need some better soil.

What to do, what to do?
Without good soil I am pretty sure things will not go well. I can say this because the last plants were a complete failure. Just like everything else, you can’t skip steps.

It all starts with the foundation, a foundation built with a little help from somebody familiar with what I am trying to do. Shortly I should have all this tiled up with some other soil mixed in. Much better soil for planting.

Just need a little more coaching on gardening greatness.

Job Interviewing

Those are some scary words for most people. You have to show up to an office on time, be dressed up. Then you have to give your life story, or it would seem that way. You have to show what great skills you have to do a good job. That can be scary.

Why imagine it that way. If you have a resume that shows your skills you may not have to talk about them as much. Having your new boss view your references may also show your competence in the work you do.

I would say work on building a relationship with the people you interview with. Don’t work on getting the job, work on building a friendship for the second interview.

There are jobs that people hire just because of the skills you have, although I believe people will most likely hire somebody they like over somebody who knows the most.

Be a friend at your next job interview.

De-Clutter To Live Longer

I’m not to sure.

I can see that removing things from your life that are causing you harm can be helpful. For instance getting rid of a book you have had for the last 25 years because one day you may read it again. Every time you look at it the memories of not really understanding it just bring you down.

Getting rid of a stack of papers that you have to look at everyday at work. Just looking at them tenses you up. Getting rid of that could be a good tension reliever.

As you remove these things that clutter your life, what is it doing to you.

I’m not sure if doing that will help you live longer. It will get rid of some of the stress and tension in your life, which will should make your life happier. I don’t know how long I am going to live for.

What type of life do you want, a happier life or a longer life? And would just de-cluttering your life actually help that?

Think Out Of The Box!

If I were to stand directly in front of you and said, “You need to start thinking out of the box!” What would you think?

• Does he think I’m stupid
• I didn’t know that I lived in a box
• Who the hell does this guy think he is

Does this mean I don’t like your ideas, or you just need to come up with something new. Who knows, only the person who said it to you really knows. Have them explain what they actually mean by that statement.

From what I can tell most people use there brain to think which isn’t in a box. It could be you are just stuck in a rut. Something as simple as taking the bus to work could be out of the box for you. This can be quite a complex statement.

Here are some more thoughts on how to Think Out Of The Box.

I never realized how much I like telling stories. I found out from a few other people that I am actually pretty good at it. who knew, not me.

I figure it this way. Everybody’s life is a story. When you figure a way to tell your story it can help a few people. You don’t have to help millions of people, just a few here and there is good enough. When you finally realize that you have helped somebody just by telling them your story. The whole idea of what you have just done will sink in. It’s awesome.

So me and my kids are doing weekly story telling and writing. We start on monday with the idea of the story. We then work monday thru saturday figuring out the story. Then on sunday we carve off a little time so we can tell the stories to each other. Of course it’s the summer and sometimes it doesn’t go very well. Who cares, when we work on it, it’s awesome.

The stories don’t have to be great stories, most aren’t. Just learning to tell stories, any stories, the process will help in turning those boring stories into great stories.

Telling stories can not only change your life but also the lives of your family and others.

Go out and start telling stories!!

Saying the wrong thing in the heat of the moment can be crushing. I have done it quite a bit. I am so good at it with my family that I can instantly change a good time into an anger driven get together. It only takes a second.

Crushing words that seem the size of an elephant.
Where do they come from, how do they get through to you.

I would say, they are mostly from your family. One word or phrase placed in the write context, with just the right tone. YOUR CRUSHED.

It feels like a giant elephant just landed on you.
Your body, heart and soul have been flattened.
It only took a second.

Sometimes a simple pause is so hard to come by. We think so fast. We think were right.

Try this just for today.
Before you say anything, wait 3 seconds. It may seem like a lifetime but it’s not.

Accidents do happen, especially when you have a puppy you are trying to potty train. It takes time and patients. Come on though, the smell at times can be terrible. One minute the dog is right there, the next minute he can’t be found. Your looking everywhere and then suddenly he is standing right in front of you. Like nothing has happened. He has that what’s going on look in his face. You just know that he pooped somewhere. Sure enough a quick walk and smell around and there it is.

Dogs aren’t the only being that makes mistakes when trying to learn something. We all do. Having the patients to keep going after a mistake is vital. You don’t stop training your dog just because he made a mistake. You keep going until the dog finally learns what he needs to do.

When you are trying to fix something about yourself and you make a mistake or put something off. It doesn’t mean give up. Keep going until you make it the way you want it.

Ok so we were coming back from the grocery store. It’s raining outside and we just leave the parking lot. My oldest says:

“we have been gone for 5 hours.”

“So!” I say.

“The poor dog”

“She is fine, what’s going to happen when we leave you at home for 5 hours”

“Leave me in charge.” of course, why wouldn’t the oldest say that.

“Is that a bad thing”

Then there is silence in the car.

“Well is it really going to be that bad?”

“YES!” they youngest says.

“Why?”

“Because she is going to be in charge!!!”

I just start busting up laughing. Maybe not as funny reading about it, but it was hysterical. We were stopped at a light and was hopping it wouldn’t turn green right away. I then look to my left and there is a lady in the car next to us looking at me as if I am crazy. It didn’t matter I was still busting up. After I settled down all I could think of is that poor lady. She must think I am crazy.

I love it, I talk quite a lot about how people should talk to themselves, laugh at themselves, it’s fun. Imagine all those people looking at you with those contorted faces, thinking you are crazy. Wishing that they could be in your world having a blast.

It’s awesome.